I don’t take kindly to when my brother tells me how I should be running home schooling with my daughter.
His boys definitely come from Mars and my daughter comes from Venus.
My mother has no suggestions because its not something she ever experienced (lucky her!)
My friends question why I have effectively given up 6 hours of my day to sit with my daughter and home school when she’s 13 and in theory more than capable of attending her live lessons.
But I’ve learnt from experience that trying to work and home school at the same time doesn’t work for either of us.
Arguments are frequent, my patience is short (or non-existent) and I spend every evening feeling guilty about not being a good enough mum and frustrated about the lack of work I have achieved.
I realised that it was actually far better for both of us if I accepted that between 9-3 every week day, I am available for Francesca.
That doesn’t mean I have to be actually sitting next to her all the time. But if she needs me, I need to drop whatever I am doing and go and help her.
So, I have rearranged my day so meetings only happen after 3pm.
I do all the small low involvement tasks during 9-3 such as emails, short phone calls, invoicing etc.
Between 3 and 5 I am either having meetings or I’m doing more focused work such as creating a workshop.
Between 5-7 is family time and then after that I do another 3 hours of work.
But it’s taken me a long time to find this rhythm – and to find a rhythm that suits both my daughter and I.
My brother thinks it’s wrong.
My friends think I am allowing my daughter to dictate how things work waaaay too much.
This route has removed so much of the stress, tension, resentment and anger that built up between us every day that I’ll take criticism.
It’s about finding a way that works for you.
And sometimes that means diverting from the ‘norm’ and be creative in the solutions that you find.